Monday, July 24, 2017

Weekend

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It's a common question people ask each other on Monday morning: "So, how was your weekend?"

I've never been a fan of small talk. This question in particular irks me though until recently I couldn't pinpoint why. If I did something fun, I don't want to brag. If I had it rough, I don't want to air out my dirty laundry. Not only do I not want to talk about my weekend but I also don't want to discuss someone else's.

I recognize that small talk is a social lubricant that enables people to connect on a superficial level before deciding whether to invest more time in the relationship. But to me this question seems like a minefield of innocent comments that could turn awkward at any moment.  What did you do this weekend? "Oh, I spent time with my family at a water park - your kids would love it!" Awkward.  

When I got asked this question this morning, in my mind I flashed back to Saturday where I spent the day either hugging the toilet or laying down in bed wishing the headache away. I restarted the bc pills in prep for the next cycle and I got the expected reaction I do when I go from no hormones to hormones.  Instead of discussing that, I went with my go-to answer which is a smile with, "fine, thanks" and left it at that. I don't love that it comes out as standoffish but I'd rather not risk triggering the minefield.

2 comments:

  1. A good point that we don't know what is happening in someone else's world when we ask a small talk question.

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  2. Sometimes that how are you question can be pretty loaded. Do we really want to know or are we just making small talk?

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