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Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Decision

I emailed our plan to my doctor yesterday and said we'd like to do a fresh IVF combined with a FET (instead of transferring a fresh embryo that has not yet been genetically tested).

Today I heard back and he suggested splitting the IVF and FET. The ERA results are applicable to the protocol used for frozen embryos and may be a different situation when being stimulated for IVF. So if we want to follow the recommendations from the ERA, we're down to two options:
  • IVF only
  • FET only
There's no guarantee that a new IVF will result in transferable embryos and the FET is less expensive and less painful and less invasive. But I was very conflicted about which path to choose. Even though I kept weighing the pros and cons I couldn't come up with one option that's better than the other.

I asked a few close friends and family members to weigh in and no one had any insights I haven't thought out. I bothered my husband at work to talk to me again about it even though we rehashed it a bunch of times. He clarified his preference and since I wasn't leaning in any particular direction, I agreed. So we're going with a fresh IVF.
I'm waiting for my nurse to send my timeline and we'll take it from there.

I feel tired and drained. I've been stressed and not sleeping great. To say I'm a little burned out from all this is an understatement. I think that in the back of my mind I know that the IVF is the better option but I was kind of hoping we wouldn't have to deal with it again just yet. It's not so much the physical pain; I can tolerate that. It's the anxiety of the entire ordeal. It's nerve wracking and upsetting every step of the way until we hear back the genetics report from any potential embryos that made it to blast stage. I hope and pray this cycle is successful and that the next transfer we do, whenever it will be, will stick for the long haul. Please, please let that be the case. IYH by us.



2 comments:

  1. Ugh - deciding between doing an egg retrieval and transferring a single embryo that I had was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. I'm sorry you have had to make this decision more than once. I really hope that things look up for you this year - I know you're having a rough start :/

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  2. I think going with the IVF is a great choice. Only you and your husband know what is right for the two of you, and I am so hopeful that you will have good results. But I am sorry for the burnout and hope you are able to rejuvenate soon and get in a good head space soon. Be kind to yourself :)

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