We're talking about how it's ridiculous that the toddler isn't yet potty trained. We've tried it before (twice) and for various reasons it didn't stick. We know it's up to us to drive this wagon because he's comfortable and sees no reason to make a change.
But it's been a time. We tried at winter break last year when I was in my second trimester. He was withholding at school so they said it was too much pressure and reassured me that he'll for sure catch on before I have the baby. Well.
Had the baby in May and since then it's been one thing after another. Ear infections. Bronchitis. Pneumonia. Whole family got covid. Then baby got RSV. Then toddler got a stomach bug. What in the world. We haven't had a full work week in months.
I've been exhausted. My husband is exhausted. We're mentally drained. When are we supposed to also add the stress and pressure of getting a toddler - who is lukewarm about participating, at best - to use the toilet. He's not motivated by food prizes. Stickers are not interesting. He's too smart to get bribed. I don't have the energy for it. I know it needs to happen. Just like we need to move him from a crib to a bed. I know. We don't want him to be the weirdo first grader who's still in a crib because his parents were too lazy, I get it.
This is something we think about when we contemplate having any more. They say it's rough in the beginning, and that's true. I just want my babies to be happy and healthy. That's my wish for everyone this coming year. My goal is to have him toilet trained and in a bed by Thanksgiving. Wish me luck.
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ReplyDeleteWhen they say it will come, it will. My son was one of the weirdo kids who slept in his crib until almost first grade because I just didn’t want to change. He’s my little and I left his room as his nursery as long as I could. We all have different reasons for what and how we do things, and it’s ok!! Also, we’ve had the same string of illnesses running through the house and just surviving through those should be the goal. Your boy will potty train. He will sleep in a big boy bed. Give yourself as a parent grace and kudos for what you are managing. Advice for what I would have told myself when they were littler, and advice I try to remind myself now. 3rd day of chicken nuggets for dinner is ok :)
ReplyDeleteYour toddler sounds like a very smart little guy! My son was too so when he turned 3 I told him that diapers were for babies and since he clearly wasn’t a baby anymore the store wouldn’t sell me anymore diapers. Once the last package was gone he was going to have to use the toilet. It worked, there were a couple accidents but overall he did great!
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